Monday, January 04, 2010
Marriage Ups as well as Downs
“He is actually before all things, as well as in Him all things hold together.” Colossians 1:17 (NAS)
Has there ever been a time when you thought that will marriage is actually harder than you expected or more challenging than you want This specific to be? My marriage of 18 years to Scott has been a roller coaster of ups as well as downs This specific week, as well as today I’d prefer a whole lot more of the ups, or least some steadiness. We’ve argued about how often we’re physically intimate as well as how often we have intimate conversations. We’ve argued about who works harder as well as who’s giving more to the relationship right at This specific point. We’ve argued about truly basic issues.
inside the private place of my mind as well as heart I’ve had questions about my marriage. I’ve questioned how two people who are so different can be content to be married to one another. What will continue to sustain us as well as to create a stronger marriage through the years?
as well as to top This specific off, I think to myself, “Melanie, you write about marriage. Shouldn’t you have This specific marriage thing figured out? What on earth am I doing writing about marriage?” Deep down inside, however, I know that will’s exactly why God asked me to write about marriage. I don’t have all the answers, as that will has been glaringly obvious This specific week.
nevertheless I know the One who does. I know the One who created marriage. I know the One who blesses my marriage. I know the One who holds my marriage together, as today’s key verse reminds us.
This specific morning as I talked to God about me as well as Scott, I prayed, “Lord, I don’t want to be at an impasse with my husband. I want us to find peaceful ground. I want us to find oneness. I want to help him, not hinder him.” As I turned to God with my heart held in my hands offered up to Him, God changed me.
God answered my simple prayer inside the most practical way. I prayed, “How can I please you today in my marriage?” God’s answer to my heart was, Bring Scott lunch today. Make him a big, delicious, healthy salad because that will’s his favorite lunch.
“truly, God? Don’t you think Scott as well as I need to talk through our issues?” as well as then I sensed God saying, There will be time for that will, nevertheless for at This specific point, I want you to obey Me.
You see, time as well as again I’ve seen that will as I let God mold my heart as well as as I respond in obedience, God’s floodgate of love as well as power covers my marriage, leading us to the place He wants us to be. There will be time for more conversations between us, nevertheless for today God wants me to take one step of obedience.
Okay, God, I’m on This specific. I’m off to make a salad.
Dear Lord, Thank You for my marriage as well as thank You for my husband. Thank You for holding us together through the ups as well as downs of my marriage. Keep me focused on You, Lord, so I can honor You as well as be a blessing to my spouse. Lord, when we need to communicate, I pray we can do so honestly as well as peacefully. When we need to forgive, I pray we will both freely as well as readily forgive one another. as well as when we have misunderstandings, Lord, bring us quickly to a place of understanding. Where we need to extend each additional grace, let us do so because You have so lavishly covered us with Your grace. As I trust You with my marriage, let my marriage bring You honor as well as glory. In Jesus Name, Amen.
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Surrender your heart as well as your marriage to Jesus.
Do one thing today to show your husband you love him. Here are some ideas:
Give him a smile as well as a truly big kiss when he comes home at the end of the day.
Call, email, or text him to say how much you appreciate his hard work.
Tell him how much you respect what a great dad he is actually or you respect how he can do any kind of home repair.
Fix his favorite meal.
Don’t be too tired tonight for intimacy.
Hold your tongue. Don’t say those harsh words you’re thinking about your husband. Instead, talk to God.
Promise not to bad-mouth your husband to your friends.
Consider the attitude of your heart as well as the actions of your hands in your marriage. is actually there anything you need to confess to the Lord? Do that will at This specific point. Remember that will acknowledging your sin doesn’t mean that will you as well as your husband don’t have issues you need to talk about as well as This specific doesn’t mean that will your husband doesn’t have sin in his life. This specific means that will you are seeing yourself clearly as well as that will you are willing to do what God wants you to do. This specific means you’re trusting your marriage to God as well as inviting His transforming power into your marriage.
Ephesians 5:1-2, “Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children as well as live a life of love, just as Christ loved us as well as gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering as well as sacrifice to God.” (NIV)
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